Houseplants we have a love-hate relationship with

peace lily

If you are like me, you’ve likely found yourself in a love-hate relationship with at least one of your houseplants. Perhaps, like many others, you’ve fallen victim to the charming but notoriously temperamental Peace Lily. It’s the plant everyone recommends as “easy to care for,” yet somehow, it becomes the most dramatic member of your collection. But is not the only drama queen on my list.

Peace Lily

My peace lilly being dramatic before and after waterting
Peace Lily being dramatic before and after watering.

The Peace Lily is like the diva of houseplants. It’s as if it thrives on drama. Move it slightly away from its perfect spot? Cue the wilting leaves. Miss a watering by a day? Prepare for a full-on tantrum. Many plant owners in the community share this love-hate relationship with their Peace Lilies. One user aptly described it as a plant that “throws a tantrum at too much water” but also “throws a total fit at too little.” It’s a no-win situation!

From my own experience, keeping a Peace Lily happy is like walking on a tightrope. Too much sunlight, and it crisps up; too little, and it sulks. And just when I think I’ve nailed it, the Peace Lily decides to remind me who’s in charge by yellowing its leaves or refusing to bloom. But oh, the satisfaction when it finally does bloom! That brief moment of triumph makes all the hassle seem worthwhile—until the cycle starts again.

TOP TIP: Consider watering from the bottom to prevent overwatering and use a self-watering pot to keep the soil consistently moist without drowning the roots.

Calatheas and Marantas

calathea scorched by sun
Calathea acting like its scorched from the sun.

If you think the Peace Lily is bad, let me introduce you to the Calathea and Maranta families. These plants are the textbook definition of high-maintenance. They demand the perfect level of humidity, indirect light, and just the right amount of water. Many Redditors, including myself, have almost given up on these plants multiple times. “Calatheas, all of them,” one user sighed, expressing the collective frustration of many.

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In my case, the Calathea warscewiczii, with its velvety leaves and intricate patterns, seemed like the perfect addition to my plant corner. But despite my best efforts—misting, using a humidifier, and even repotting—it never looked satisfied. It was always on the verge of browning or curling up. I eventually resigned to the fact that this plant would forever keep me on my toes.

TOP TIP: These plants thrive on high humidity, so place them in a bathroom or near a humidifier. Also, keep them away from direct sunlight.

Unforgiving Begonias

a wilting begonia
A wilting begonia—for no apparent reason.

Begonias are another plant that can quickly turn from delightful to demanding. One user mentioned their Begonia as a plant that seemed to thrive only to suddenly decide it’s time to give up. I can relate. My Begonia, which initially thrived under my care, started to decline for no apparent reason. Despite providing it with the same care routine, it began losing leaves, and no amount of coaxing seemed to help. It’s as if Begonias enjoy testing our patience.

TOP TIP: These plants prefer bright, indirect light and consistent moisture. Let the soil dry out slightly between waterings to avoid root rot.

The Picky Alocasia Black Velvet

Alocasia Black Velvet despair
Alocasia Black Velvet despair.

Then there’s the Alocasia Black Velvet, a plant that looks stunning but is an absolute nightmare to keep happy. A fellow plant parent shared that they had to banish theirs outside because no matter what they did, the plant looked atrocious. I had a similar experience—my Alocasia seemed to despise every spot in the house, showing its displeasure by drooping or yellowing leaves.

TOP TIP: This plant needs a well-draining potting mix and prefers a spot with bright, indirect light. It’s also sensitive to overwatering, so be cautious.

At the end of the day, our love-hate relationships with these difficult plants are what make being a plant parent so rewarding. Sure, they might drive us crazy with their endless demands, but when they finally thrive, it feels like a major accomplishment. So, if you’re struggling with a diva plant like the Peace Lily or a moody Begonia, know that you’re not alone. Embrace the challenge!

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